marrying the right person???

a great article which i recieved in my mail which we can learn more about relationships...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.

She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/ habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there;doing nothing,and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy.It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria(excitement) of love fades.It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely,phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not alwayswelcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you oncehad, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappinessand look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extra marital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship,excessive TV,or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love .

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always :

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

types of girls men like.. hmm???

this is an article i took from the internet... quite facinating and interesting.. (urh.. is it the same?? ahahah!!! x3) anyway, happy reading...

Men love all shapes and sizes

Ladies, it's time to stop cursing your jiggly bum. And while you're at it, no more whining about your thunder thighs or colossal calves. And those hips you think would fit better on a birthing cow? Learn to love 'em. Because the truth is, what you consider a flaw may be some guy's favourite feature. Really. There are guys out there who prefer a flat chest to a couple of D-cups, A pot belly to a set of toned abs and a shapely derriere to a tiny tush. Next time you're looking at a magazine ad and then make the mistake of examining your reflection in the mirror, remember this: You've got your mind fixated on this ideal look. But in reality, the body type you see in ads is possessed naturally by less than 5% of females according to a study done by the Social Issues Research Centre. That's a tough goal. Let's get realistic. You're not in that 5%. But the good news is, none of your friends, co-workers or family members probably are either. So why measure yourself against Claudia Schiffer when your real standard should be your friend Cassie with the wide hips or Aunt Sally with the love handles? Still not convinced? Check out these body types and the men that worship them:

1. Juice in the caboose.

Let's all give a round of applause to J. Lo for bringing back the bum. Yes, girls have had large rears since the invention of chocolate, but they always hid them in shame. They even experimented with clever fashion tricks to cover them up — ever tried the discreet jumper around the waist? Not necessary anymore. Jenny from the block changed everything when she not only let her arse make an appearance — she let it steal the show. Wesley, 24, has got it bad for the bigger behind, "I don't care if a girl's got a flat chest or a big chest, but if she doesn't have a nice round bum, I'm not interested." The guys that go for junk in the trunk are typically good dancers. So shake it like, J. Lo on the dance floor and they'll come crawling. Just get used to making introductions from behind. ..

2. Stacked like a library.

Okay, it's pretty hard to go wrong when you're well-endowed on top. Many have speculated on men's fascination with breasts and few have come up with a logical explanation. Jason, 26, takes a stab at this classic dilemma, "Men love cool, multi-purpose gadgets, and breasts may be the best gadget of all ... they provide nourishment for the young, a place to rest a head for the pillow-less, and a hand-hold for the ... people who are neither young, nor sleepy." So what type of man is most drawn to these wiggly wonders? All men. And that's the plight of the D-cup: You never know if he likes you or the twins. The A-cups think that's a fair trade.

3. Petite power.

The tiny girls who still get asked for ID for 15 rated films really have the pick of the litter. With no height constrictions, they can date guys from 5'5 to 6'5. I'm talking about girls who long to hear their men describe them as "gorgeous" and "sexy" but have to settle for "adorable" and "cute." Who are the men flattering these miniature maidens? They are guys with a thing for much younger girls. They love it that their women are pint-sized and that their feet don't touch the ground when they sit in chairs. It's okay if your man wants to keep you young at heart. But if he asks you to put on a Catholic school girl uniform, run away. Fast.

4. Skeletal supermodels.

The tall, thin and gorgeous girls often complain that they can't get a date. Maybe men are intimidated. And why shouldn't they be? The supermodel is the highest level on the dating barometer. Think about it. People always measure against the supermodel: "He can get any girl he wants — even a supermodel," or "Well, she's pretty, but it's not like she's a supermodel," are just a couple of common rumblings. Or maybe supermodels go dateless because men don't know what to suggest for a date. I mean, these girls obviously don't go out to eat. But don't worry; the supermodels of the world will never be lonely. They have an ample supply of rock stars and rich men who love to show them off.

5. Va-va-va-voluptuous.

Do you have it all? Big boobs, big hips and a big bum to boot? No need to hide those curves under a baggy t-shirt — flaunt your hourglass figure. "I like a girl with some substance," says Luke, 31, "I don't like to worry that I'm breaking a girl when I hug her." Don't worry, Luke. Voluptuous girls are unbreakable — they're natural women. We salute the Lukes of the world for keeping it real. Seriously. Women's bodies have to go through excruciating events like child birth and post-break-up pizza binges – which are both, interestingly enough, caused by men!

6. Buff and tough.

Athletic girls may have tight butts and a six pack but like our friends, the supermodels, they can sometimes intimidate guys. How can a guy date a girl who could potentially kick his ass? Or worse, beat him in a fierce game of thumb war? "I dated this girl who did triathlons," confesses Mark, 26, "I'd try to train with her but I couldn't even keep up. I always felt pathetic around her."

If you're still thinking, "There's no way someone could ever love my squishy tummy," then that's because you don't love it. If you carry yourself as if you're the sexiest women in the room, men will notice. So love your big bum. Love your flat chest. Love your thunder thighs. Then he'll love them. And while you're doing all this lovin', learn to love his pot belly too!.

By Elsa K. Simcik.

so?? which one are you?? ehhee... ;3